Backstory on how it happened: We basically were talking about marriage (yes I know it’s early but I just wanted to see what he thought) and he said he doesn’t want to marry because of how men lose the majority of divorces and also lose assets etc. I understand how he feels and he’s just looking out for himself, but It seems like he just
gave up on trying to have a working, healthy marriage. Though I can’t completely blame him since divorce rates are up there, but I would’ve tried at least. For me, if I’m in a relationship I’m in it for the long run and I’m committed to it so I saw no point in staying there if we weren’t going to be married eventually. I don’t want to stay boyfriend
and girlfriend for the rest of my life. However, he was good to me, treated me good, and didn’t think he would cheat on me at all. He wasn’t a great communicator but he was trying. Mind you this was my first relationship so I ask did I make a mistake breaking up with him? We were together for about a year plus some.
(TL;DR) Did I make a mistake breaking up with him because he said he never wants to marry?
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There are major dealbreakers that a lot of people have. Kids and marriage are #1. Just cause he was a good guy doesn’t mean you need to stay if you don’t want the same things.
Ya seems like a pretty trivial reason imo. A piece of paper that says you’re together shouldn’t be a deal breaker. On the plus side you’re in your early 20’s and relationships in the era of your life rarely go the distance.
if marriage is something you want, then no, you didn’t make a mistake. He told you very clearly that it wasn’t something he wanted. You were smart, you listened to him, and took him at his word, and you ended it so you could find someone who wants the same thing you want.
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING HERE !!! YOU PUT YOURSELF FIRST!!!