My (22F) girlfriend (23F) and I are both bisexual and interested in looking for a man to hook up with for a threesome. We have both dated men before. Has anyone else done this? Any ideas on how to screen for a man who will actually be good? It might also be hard to find a guy we’re both really into who is into both of us as well (we have different races and body types).

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  2. It can be done, obv. As conventionally attractive (?) women, you can be EXTREMELY picky. Sit down w gf and write a detailed list of what u want. (Body type, fitness level, age range, race, Dom? Sub? …etc)

    Then set up a profile on AFF or FL. Vet by email, then meet in public. Join a local swingers group and go to the munches. (This will let you meet guys w/0 the pressure! You can also get the scoop on who to avoid.)

    Feel free to dm if you have any questions. (Disclaimer: I am in a ltr, and won’t, so plz don’t ask.)

  4. Choose a person who is honest and do not hide his real identity. Days or weeks before playing meet for coffee in public together to check his attitude and chemistry for both of you. There are commercial dating apps that checks for safety of person you are dating too but I don’t know much about them.

  6. pick a bisexual man. better chance of him understanding queerness and smaller chance of weird hetero normative toxic sex shit

  7. Go to a play party, pick a guy you both find attractive and just go for it.

    Edit to add that I speak from experience, having been the M in this scenario on several occasions. The advantage of this situation is that the single guys at a play party are usually already vetted by the organizers. And you can leave them there if you don’t want any further interaction. Much better than bringing a man to your home.

  8. I think it’s called lesbians for a reason. If they have threesome with a man then they’re bisexual

  9. Not a lesbian couple but in my experience in 3somes or more everyone , especially the third wheel , needs to know who they are there for and what is expected of them . What, if any limits there are . That way no one feels left out or overwhelmed and a good time will be had by all. I know it sounds weird but rules in a free for all works.

  10. Lesbians are generally not interested in sleeping with men lol. I think you’re trying to ask the bisexuals

  11. I served as the male observer once. I was invited when I was still new to the ways of women and they only wanted someone to watch which was at the time further than I ever was with a woman before that time. I did learn a great deal which is why I think when I did finally lay with a woman that made all the difference.

  12. Yeah I did that once, it was awful. Nothing like watching some random dick go in and out of the woman you are in love with. -1/10 would not recommend.

  13. Find someone who wants to play, but will know and understand they are the 3rd! Those in the kink community and those with a more mature sexual understanding will probably be your best bet.

  17. Not a lesbian, but whenever introducing someone else in intimate situations, I have one rule I abide by.

    Pay for it.
    You get a screened professional who is at your command for the duration. You can ask them to act how you like, do what you like and best of all, no hurt feelings or repercussions after the fact.

    Most agencies here allow you to make very specific requirements along with any information you may need to put your mind at ease.
    No matter how perfect the partner you pick, if you don’t Pay, there are repercussions

  18. Yes. My girlfriend and I do this semi often. We are both bisexual so whenever we have the feeling or craving we go for it together. We set up a profile on FetLife and AltPlayground. We got A TON of responses within minutes. We had used tinder before but both got banned. Our screening process has to do with location, cock size, convenient timing, general attractiveness. We both have different tastes in types of men, but we align on cock size. We choose our man, then meet him somewhere close to our house. We prefer to host, but only after we decide he passes the test on the date.

  19. I just want to be the man in this scenario ![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|money_face)![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|stuck_out_tongue)![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|stuck_out_tongue)![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|stuck_out_tongue)

  21. I suspect that for most men that You’re going to be interested in, You should hire him. That way You can get a refund and keep Your dignity when the sex is awful or feel the power of being the boss and get what You want.

    Most men don’t know and don’t care about the awesomeness that is female sexuality. We got that special selfish nub that tells us where to go & snacks on our IQ & compassion.

    You should probably have him watch the artist, Sophia Wallace, on her TedTalk about “Cliteracy.”

  22. Hello. Yes I have had a threesome, it was a lot of years ago as it was me, my girlfriend at the time & were together for over a year at the time & the third female was her best friend of 3 years. I was asked by my lady if I had any interest in us three hooking for some fun that night or next night that she had been having some chatting about our sexploits as her beastie got all turned on over how much I enjoyed foreplay as well as toy’s, vibes, how much I loved orally pleasuring her to multiple orgasms, into different positions, holes & speed change-ups haha so apparently they had been talking some. Threesome’s between us continued for almost 4 months, we all had our fun 2-3 times a week & was a nice variety as we kept changing thing’s up to not feel perhaps a routine or assuming what may take place when meeting up.

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