It’s not that they’re not into me cause I only send it to guys I’ve already hooked up with or are kinda interested in hooking up with me. So why do they respond with something along the lines of “that’s a nice surprise” or “thirst trap” instead of complimenting you and initiating sexting. Is there any reasoning behind this? I’m so lost. I thought guys like receiving them lol
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Perhaps the kind of guy you hook up with isn’t exactly Shakespeare.
Obviously this requires first-hand experiential research…
Okay seriously though: no idea. Not everybody is overwhelmed by nudes. I mean by now we’ve seen so many yknow? The actual human interaction takes the cake.
Interesting. I thought all guys would LOVE stuff like that. Are you kidding me? I can’t get enough!
Because you’re sending something to get a specific reaction from different people and people are unique, or busy, or maybe not into nudes, or……any of the millions of things it could be.
Why not ask them, or initiate sexting yourself instead of looking for a reaction?
What is the context in which you send nudes? This reaction:
> why do they respond with something along the lines of “that’s a nice surprise” or “thirst trap” instead of complimenting you and initiating sexting.
suggests to me that you are “surprising” them, rather than asking to make sure that they *actually want* to receive nudes? Also, timing is everything, if someone is at work, or out with people (especially with family), or perhaps even just engaged in a particularly “unsexy” activity, it’s pretty unreasonable to expect them to sext.
On the other hand, if you’re already sending flirty texts back and forth, and the person asks for a nude and you send it, and the response is underwhelming, then I would say….maybe it’s something about the pic itself that is not really meeting their expectations.
Personally, I very much dislike receiving unsolicited nudes. If I haven’t established with someone that I’m comfortable seeing nudes of them, it’s a boundary crossing behavior. I hate when people assume that I’m just comfortable with it by default. It’s like women receiving dick pics. If it’s someone I’m comfortable with though and I’ve established that I’m comfortable seeing that kind of thing, then…I generally will really like to see it. But again, it’s all about timing. I don’t really like receiving such pics by surprise, ever, because what if I’m out with people and someone is looking at my phone? That’s really uncomfortable and I pretty much don’t ever want to receive that even from someone who I love receiving nudes of.
At a bare minimum we need to establish that I’m alone and to expect a nude.
But even there I am not always going to initiate sexting. Like I could be doing all sort of other things…maybe I’m alone in the kitchen, cooking? Maybe I’m playing video games and am at a critical point and really into it? Maybe I’m doing some work after hours and am really involved in it? Maybe I just masturbated and am not really horny? There are times I want sexy talk or sexting or sex and times I don’t. Not everyone is like me in this respect, but I think a lot more men are than a lot of women realize, and a lot of women and people of other genders are like this too.
All men aren’t the same lol. All of us aren’t walking around like horny dogs 24/7 but with that being said nice surprises are always appreciated lol. Plus I’m not the best sexter it’s kinda awkward to me as an adult lmao. That could be a reason too lmao
You would have to ask the men you’re sending them to because all we can do is guess
Maybe they’re expecting an actual swordfish and aren’t good at improvising
Idk why those guys don’t. I can’t help but compliment a lady when I get nudes. It’s just how my brain works. It maybe just those guys. It could also be that they already had the real thing? Idk tho I always love pics even if I’ve already had the real thing.
I thought sending it at a risky time was the whole point? I usually send it when they’re out or just woken up so it kinda adds to the thrill aspect of it. Sending it only when I’m asked, and not when I’m in the mood clearly establishes the fact that men have more control as to when we get it on or not. But I totally get your perspective.
I really think a lot of men don’t know how many more nudes they’d be likely to receive if they responded enthusiastically to the ones they did receive.
I’m really self conscious about sending my own nudes. I’ve taken but never sent.
I feel like if you’re not getting the right response, they’re not be the right guys. Often, when you put yourself out there like that a guys first response is usually to play it cool. Stay away from guys like that, they ain’t worth your time, or your beautiful, gorgeous nakedness 🙂
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