Just as the title says, I(21M) want to be honest and genuine but often times I never build up the confidence or “fuck it” energy to simply as a girl out. And I’ve only been active in online dating rather than IRL. The only time I got close to being on a date was through tinder, but she canceled on me the day prior.
Would it be a good idea to go to a bar once every week and just get a feel for the environment? Or have a few drinks, like 2 for 4, without getting too drunk and just starting a conversation with a girl? And afterwards looking back and seeing how simple it can be? I know how to hold my alcohol and don’t like getting blackout drunk but I do know it helps with blocking out inhibitions. But I don’t want to always rely on it.
I honestly don’t know, and am wondering if there’s any sort of advice that reddit can offer me?
TL;DR
I’m shy af and very rarely interact outside my social groups, even towards friends of friends.
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read *my comments* in a couple of recent posts:
[https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/xcvs6t/sixteen_male_needing_help/](https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/xcvs6t/sixteen_male_needing_help/)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/xcpyre/i_want_to_be_a_dad_by_30_and_i_only_have_ten/](https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/xcpyre/i_want_to_be_a_dad_by_30_and_i_only_have_ten/)
Try meet up app and find people with similar interests and hobbies then maybe you can meet a girl in person
The website Dr Nerdlove has a lot of dating advice. But also yes, I think that going out and practicing talking to women is a great idea!