Me (F19) and my boyfriend (M20) have been together for over 2.5 years, this is my first relationship ever. Recently I’ve been thinking about how I really don’t enjoy sex. Any type of foreplay we’ve tried doesn’t turn me on, and I feel no sort of pleasure when he fingers me/rubs my clit. He really cares about my pleasure so I pretend to cum every once in a while (please don’t hate me for this) (he’s only made me cum once in our relationship) I definitely don’t think it’s his skills, he seems to be doing all the right things. He listens to me and changes things up when I tell him to, yet nothing changes for me sensation wise. Obviously I love this man and I want to be with him for a really long time but I also want to enjoy sex and everything revolving it. I feel extremely guilty that I don’t want to have sex with him anymore
Please help
[Edit] The one time he did make me cum I was blindfolded and thinking about different sexual fantasies, this is usually what I do when I masterbate, it’s hard to focus on what’s happening in front of me so I tend to imagine scenarios instead??
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Maybe you just aren’t that into him.
If you’re not sexually attracted to him, let him go so you can look for a partner whom you’re actually into and he can hopefully find someone who is actually into him, too.
>it’s hard to focus on what’s happening in front of me so I tend to imagine scenarios instead??
If you’re too stuck in your own head, then look into mindfulness exercises to help you exist more in the moment and be present.