So I’ve had a pretty tight knit group of friends over the last year and a half. We’d call almost every day and message in our discord server on the days we couldn’t. Usually we’d just share stuff that happens during the day and share pictures, jokes, and memes. Theres five of us, two are from two different states, two are in the same high school as seniors, and one is a college freshman (me).
Recently one of the friends, arguably the one I’m closest to, made a discord sever for her lunch table. After a bit, the friend who also goes to the same high school joined as well even though she’s not at the lunch table. A few days later one of the friends in the group thats from another state was also added because he apparently knew a couple of the people in the chat.
Since those three have joined they’ve barely messaged our original chat and have been super active in the other sharing the same stuff they would have here. The only reason I know this is because my closest friend kept showing me things from their chat the last time we hung out in person.
It kind of hurts knowing they’re all talking and doing stuff without me and I’m afraid I’m going to get left behind or that they’re barely going to talk to me anymore. The only reason they have to message in our original chat now is for me and our one other friend (who’s also been missing their company).
Would it be overstepping to ask to join the chat? I really want to be able to be active in messaging with them again but I’m afraid they just don’t want me there and will feel pressured to do something they don’t want to when I ask. And if I should ask, how should I? I was thinking of being honest and say I kinda of miss them and also include that I’m interested in maybe meeting their other friends. But I don’t know, the thought of starting that conversation gives me anxiety.
Any advice is appreciated.