Getting very frustrated with my husband, we’ve been together 15 years and he’s eaten me out once… maybe…. I’m sick of it. He won’t finger me, touch me or do anything besides suck on my titties…
I’ve tried having conversations but no matter what i say it just shatters his miniature ass ego… he acts like he doesn’t care how i feel or want to make things better for me, it’s just a conversation about how “he’s not good enough” … yeah your not, your not even trying
He’s the most inconsiderate lover, he’ll use my head and neck as leverage to pound into me… wtf i have legit back problems like that’s not enjoyable… and yes I’ve told him that, or he wants to do me from behind which does NOTHING for me but whatever, as long as you come quick who cares if i EVER DO.
I literally don’t remember the jay time i truly had an orgasm. It’s fucking sad…
He likes me on top with my foot up his ass , that’s pretty much it…. he’ll come in 3 min tops and THAT’S IT , no more for me until next time he decides he’s turned on.. good forbid i don’t want it, there goes the little ego again…
I despise having sex with him honestly anymore, i do it, and he loves everything but i don’t enjoy it at all, can’t wait for it to be over. Then i lay there and wish i had a woman to fuck and finish the job… I despise that he won’t pleasure me… it literally turned me bi because I’d rather eat pussy and be eaten than never experience that pleasure.
I know they say it’s wrong but i told him I’m. Not sucking his dick until he gives a little.. i still do here n there but nowhere near what i used to do for him. I’m over it. I feel like he’s borderline gay tbh (don’t know what other explanation) and he makes me feel so unwanted and unloved.
I’ve asked him about opening up our marriage of course that’s not an option….
I’m just fucking miserable and it’s making me despise him in many ways, i can barely stand being around him anymore. After 15 fucking years of neglect and dealing with his manchild ways on top of it all. He makes me feel worthless… and I’m a FUCKING GODDESS.
I don’t know what to do. Maybe some online strangers can help me figure out how to make this work. He’s a decent life partner, and I’ve spent half of my fucking life with him but I’ve been fading away for years…
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Stop having sex with him.
Why would he do anything more for you when you already give him what he wants?
Make him realise if he wants you to open up sexually he needs to work with you.
I lived for 20 years with a wife that never wanted sex, the last stretch was three years with NOTHING. The resentment got to be too much. I had to divorce her. At 57 now I am the happiest I have ever been and am satisfied in every way….and then some. Don’t be miserable, move on, find someone that treats you right.
There is a difference between being bad at sex and not trying. If someone is bad, they can always get better and even good. If you don’t try, nothing good will even happen for the partner. So he’s bad and doesn’t bother to try. I feel bad for you.
The path from “despise” to “love” will take you so long you’ll have one foot in the grave by then…if you’re lucky. So picture getting oral sex when you’re 90. Time to run like forest gump
My best friends husband is bad at sex, has zero sex drive and doesn’t even try.
After 12 years she now has a FWB. She’s much happier, she knows it has the potential of blowing up her marriage but she doesn’t care.
It sounds like you want to leave, and frankly I think you should. 15 years is way too much time to have wasted with someone who thinks your pleasure is optional.
I read stories like this so often on Reddit. I find it very hard to believe that someone can be that insensitive and indifferent to their partner’s needs and still be considered a “decent life partner”. No, they’re not. It just so happens that outside the bedroom their personal priorities just happen to overlap with yours enough that you don’t notice.
Sorry to hear. Its not a good situation. Try talking about it or get outside help.
sex is too important to you to stay, you cannot live like this
Inform him that you are starting an open marriage as of yesterday !
If he has a problem with that, tell him to go see a marriage counselor on his own, you’ll be too busy meeting other men..
I’m sorry. I guess your waaaay past the point of talking to him about it… sheesh. I really don’t know what to say because I know that I personally wouldn’t enjoy having sex with a partner and her not be having orgasms. I would do WHATEVER IT TAKES to make sure she’s enjoying the sex as much as me! Oral, toys, whatever! I hope most men are like me and are of the mantra if she don’t come, I don’t follow. All those years and he is still just a little boy sounds like. Again.. I’m sorry. Not all men are into using their ladies body to masturbate. Can’t really call that having sex because that requires someone else! Sometimes this sub makes me feel kinda embarrassed to be a man for real.
He needs to realize that most men will pleasure you any time you need it
Marriage counseling.
Buy a vibrator