I’m frustrated because I feel like I’m experiencing dopamine issues in dating. If I go on any amount of dates and interact with a man who I’m really physically attracted to (because this happens so rarely) my dopamine skyrockets. Of course statistically a lot of these men aren’t good dating prospects, so I stop seeing them when they show unfavorable behaviors. But the problem is after for weeks I am basically experiencing a dopamine crash. I’m irritable, anxious, sad. I try to cope with other ways trying to get dopamine – attempting to find another man I’m as attracted to (but b/c it’s so rare I just get more frustrated), bingeing Youtube, etc. I try to do healthy dopamine coping, like working out, journaling, etc. but nothing hits the same and the crash almost feels painful. It has nothing to do with who the person is, it may have been just 1 date. But does anyone else deal with this for long periods of time? How do you cope?
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So from what I am reading I can come to the conclusion that the healthy dopamine coping activities you do is by yourself. I think in order for you to get to a healthy level you will need to find an activity you can do with others. I took up indoor climbing and made friends (men and women) who also like to climb. We go climbing at the same time every week and then go get food together. To me this fills the social void I am missing. I am also a big introvert by the way.