How many of y’all legally married before your wedding?

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1. Don’t you always sign it during the ceremony? Or is that just a British thing?

2. In Germany you have to marry legally at the Standesamt and the “Wedding-Wedding” is at the church.
   You can’t take the papers to the church. Those are two totally different things. You could go the the Standesamt on the same day, but it is more usual to marry legally before your wedding.

3. My wife and I got married in May of 2020, right in the middle of the Covid lockdown lol. At first we just signed the certificate, filed it at the courthouse, and had a dinner party with family afterward to celebrate and told ourselves we can do the wedding after Covid is over.

   It’s over 2 years later and we’ve talked about whether we want to actually do the wedding ceremony or not. We agreed that doing it isn’t really gonna make us feel any more married. The money, time, and effort to put together a wedding when we’re already settled in and living life together just feels like us running around ragged for tradition’s sake and not much else. We haven’t closed the door entirely on having a wedding, but doing it now is just gonna be this whole *thing* and neither of us feel like doing the whole ceremony.

4. We did the paperwork months before the actual ceremony. It turns out you can’t just sign in CA, the government worker put on a robe and took us to some styrofoam arches in a back room and had us do vows right there. Then about 4 months later we had the “real” wedding, and that’s what we consider our anniversary to be.

5. We consider getting married and signing the paperwork to be the wedding even though we did basically elope and then a few months later had a small ceremony with family and a party. So I chose signed paperwork on the wedding day because that was our wedding day to us even though we had a follow-up one as well.

6. I did the paperwork on the day of my wedding. It was really nice to me to have everyone witness the signing of the papers. Idk signing right after we said our vows felt really nice. My cheeks were hurting from how much I was smiling <3

7. Me and my husband. We decided on a Thursday to get married on Saturday…6 months before our wedding. It was us, my daughter (3 at the time) our parents, my brother and his wife are the church with the preacher. Wedding was slightly bigger

8. In Florida you sign the paperwork at the Clerk of Courts, have the ceremony and then the officiant signs and sends to the county for registration with the state.