Hi! I would really appreciate some advice as I am very lost about this situation.
For some context, I’m 19F and I have an Internet friend who is also 19F. She lives very far away and we met in a role-playing app. We don’t have each other’s contacts or social media and we only text through that app, so we’ve never seen each other or done a face reveal or even heard our voices. Despite that I feel like she is a very close friend of mine, as it has been more than a year since we started talking.
Right now she is going through very hard times. I won’t go into detail because that’s her personal life, but life isn’t being kind to her. She is dealing with a very hard thing to deal with at home (not something she or anyone has any control over) plus other hardships that are adding to the stress/her feeling horrible. I want to help her, I really fucking do, but I have no clue how to do it.
I show her my support as best as I can, and I constantly tell her that she can talk to me about her hardships if she thinks it might help, but she often doesn’t want to which is completely understandable. I also have talked to her about taking a break from our 1 on 1 roleplay as I feel it might be adding to the stress, but she has refused for now. But then I feel like I’m not doing anything to actually help, and sometimes even adding to the whole thing. I can’t be there for her physically, and I feel like me checking in sometimes only makes things worse.
Does anyone have any advise? I also know it is not my job to help her but I genuinely want her to be alright, even if now it feels impossible. She deserves it, so so much.
I’ll take any advise you can give me! Thank you!
TL;DR: Online friend is going through a lot of hardships in life, and I would like some advise on how to help when the only thing I can do is text her.
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See somebody you like suffering but knowing you cant do much is one of the worst feelings.
Bad things first: She has to cope those problems for herself. You cant carry or solve them for her at all.
Good thing: you can be there and listen to her. Making her not feeling alone in those times. Probably you want to ask for her number or social media so you can get in touch also outside of the game.