So basically the title. I try to make good first impressions and try to be talkative but when I hang out more with them I can’t make much small talks or deep conversations very well. Often times it ends up being awkward. Some people even say that they thought I was a talkative person but think for some reason I’m just quiet. I also feel like hanging out with new people for a while makes me drained. But with people I am extremely comfortable with, it’s not the case. I am pretty talkative with them. How do I avoid and improve this different behaviors?
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Naturally, you care more about what those people think and are more “stuck in your head” since you are aware they’re still forming their opinion of you. You try to think of the right things to do & say (what they want to hear) instead of comfortable expressing whatever you feel like. If you built your life around your passions, hobbies, etc. you are too busy, focused on your own journey and “living your own mental movie” to care as much about what people think of you.
Be more interested in learning about them than you are in what’s happening in your own head.
I think at a certain point in a relationship you have to stop performing and start being comfortable being boring lol because you are comfortable with the person and don’t have anything left to prove. I see nothing wrong with this except the pressure you’re putting on yourself.
Maybe you’re an introvert?