Redditors with submissive humiliation kinks, how is your self-esteem?

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1. It stays in the bedroom. I’m still confident IRL.

2. My GF has one and has good self esteem. I would die if she did it to me, and have bad self esteem.

   I kind of always figured that if you have enough confidence in yourself, you can handle it, but don’t think that applies to everyone.

3. I think it can absolutely, just like some people can like impact play or high protocol dynamics for unhealthy reasons. Or how sarcasm and dark humor can be a healthy or unhealthy behavior, depending on how someone is using it and what the effects are.

   I love love love humiliation because it lets me enter a headspace where the only thing I have to be is in the moment, enjoying sex. I can let go of my ego and need to impress people or prove myself. That being said, I also need to know my partner has the same understanding of what’s happening. If some creep actually thinks doms are superior to subs, or I’m an inferior person for subbing, it’s a no go.

   My self esteem is muuuuch better than what it used to be, and as its improved I think my reasons for liking humiliation have become healthier too. That being said, I’m sure there’s some people who’ve always had a positive relationship with it