My friend (21M) is a very awkward guy, but can warm up to people and is capable of conversation when he does. He is also not the most attractive fellow but has a heart of gold and a great personality. He frequently talks about how he is lonely but never makes an attempt to put himself out there. I have tried to get him on Tinder but he gets no matches. What can I do to get him to put himself out there and meet people? He will not go to bars or clubs because he doesn’t drink and it is just not his scene. What are some good ways of getting him taking and connecting with people?
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Go with him doing sports like football or sth. and go with him to the gym, he will look better and connects with people, maybe better volleyball or sth. tho
Number one, relax and accept that it’s ok that your friend is single. Stop putting pressure on him to fit in a societal box. Sure ideally everyone would find their true love blablabla, but most people don’t and it’s perfectly fine and normal to live a happy social self fulfilled life without a romantic relationship. The worst part is being told or implied that there’s something wrong with you you for being single.
IF you want to introduce him to people that you genuinely think he would enjoy meeting, just have a gathering at your place and invite mutual friends over.
But stop pressuring him like this, Its not like dating is so easy that he can just go out and find someone, and he is perfectly capable of figuring out what he wants for himself.