I’m 27 and still a virgin. I work out often to maintain a certain physique, am tall, heavily tattooed and told I’m supposedly attractive, I just had other things going on in my life, career to pursue, studies to accomplish, and tbh Idk, I just didn’t realize that maybe I should go do stuff. I wanted to be with someone I loved when I was younger and always have but as I got older I just got more and more nervous.
I’m with someone now who’s older than me and I love her a lot. I love that she knows what to do and can kinda guide me. Hopefully that’s a plus for her and not a con. But at the same time…I just can’t help but feel kinda less whenever she mentions exes and stuff. Like at my age I know she’d been doing it for a decade and I just Idk, makes me wonder if it will be as special and intimate for her as it will be for me when we get down to it. She’s done so much stuff with so many men before me, what’s left? How can anything we do be special or interesting or fun for her? I sometimes feel I can never be more than just the next guy in the line or the loser virgin to her that she deflowers and takes off and I know that’s wrong. Sometimes the image of her with all kinds of guys before me creeps in and I just feel like Idk.
I guess I’m also scared I’m so old compared to everyone else who has a first that in a few years my sex drive will die and I won’t get to be that “young stud who lasts forever” for her. I don’t know what, if any age that starts but it concerns me.
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You ever eat an expensive meal with someone you don’t like?
You ever eat a hotdog and potato chips with someone you do like?
Guarantee the hotdog and chips was more special.
If she loves you everything will be fine. Just make sure you pull one or two off before you start or it’s going to be a quickie lol
There was a post the other day from a woman that just had sex with a guy that was a virgin. She said it was better than any previous sex she had. Why? Because she communicated to him what gave her pleasure.
The takeaway get out of your own head about her past and ask what makes her feel good now. Communication and checking in with her is key.
If she knows you’re a virgin (which you absolutely should tell her) she has made the executive decision to be with someone less experienced.
Dont sulk because she has a past. Live in the present and grow with her to make her and your future what you want it to.
I would actually like to take someone’s virginity as I’ve never had the opportunity to before (though I’m also 27 so not older)