Sometimes when talking to someone I’d like to be friends with I overthink it and end up really awkward instead of letting everything flow naturally it happens often enough for me to notice its a problem.
I know more than likely I should stop trying so hard but damn as a kid it felt a lot easier to approach people and start up a conversation than it is now.
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Yep this is exactly how I feel. I remember I was shy as a kid, but I was still able to talk to many different people and make friends easily. I also overthink things and ruminate, it’s not an easy thing to break. There’s a filter in our brains that overanalyzes what we should/shouldn’t say; it’s sort of like a survival tactic that protects us from getting hurt. I don’t have much advice, but since I have the same issue, I would probably just work on saying what I want to say and bypass my internal filter. If I run out of things to say I could ask the other person open-ended questions so there’s less pressure on me to talk