I have a girlfriend who I love dearly & we have no problems when having sex. but I’ve always masturbated to a mix of porn, but favored trans & futa porn. Awhile back my girlfriend had seen that I used that type of material & she was disgusted by it & made me stop, which I did. It’s not like I see men on the street or even online where I specifically am attracted to them, but when I think about having intercourse with a man or read a post on this Reddit about it lol it gets me very aroused. I don’t know what to think or do about these feelings.
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First, there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of here. Human beings find lots of human beings sexy! And for some people, that “lots of” extends across gender boundaries. That’s it! Just slightly different kids of people! There is nothing wrong with finding other kinds of human beings attractive. Nothing.
What to do about it? Just take note, that’s all. Notice what turns you on. Notice it and learn from it. Notice it and accept it. If later on a term like “bi” (or pan or omni or whatever) makes sense, great! If not, that’s great too. There’s no reason to have every question figured out and answered today or tomorrow… or ever really!
I’m curious to see the responses to this. I’m kind of like you, I’m a happily married straight male, but I prefer gay or bi porn and I’m attracted to other guys sexually. I have zero interest in them romantically. I’m not sure if it’s full on bisexuality or just a kink, and I’m sure it’s probably way more common than I think. There’s nothing to be ashamed of.
Being bi is about your attraction. Are you romantically or sexually attracted to guys? Do you imagine yourself doing romantic or sexual things with a guy? If you see a guy do you imagine being with him?
Instead of rushing to slap a label on your sexuality, would it be easier for you to accept that it’s been scientifically studied that human sexuality exists on a spectrum?
To put this in simpler terms: your brain can find tons of things hot, especially things that remind it of sex. It doesn’t know what a masculine, 100% straight man is, but it does know that a dick is a sexual thing and it might get aroused from it. For some people the effect might be extremely small, but for others it can be bigger, and this might vary during their lifetimes.
Now, whether you want to explore this or not is a different thing. All it means is you’ve discovered something about yourself, not that you have to report to your nearest Bisexual Recruitment Center to get your Bi Card.