A guy that I’m interested in, I started to hang out with him soon after he was dumped in an engagement of many years. He seems very eager to hang out with me, as well as other girls, but I’m not getting vibes that he wants anything more. If I ask him and plan a day, he will come, but so will any of my other guy friends. I’m hoping that if I make a lot of time for him and I to get to know each other a lot more from the friends that we have been, it will blossom into something more.
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Do you want something more? Than say so. But when you mean “engagement”, do you literally mean he was about to get married but was dumped?
If he was in an engagement of many years, he probably isn’t looking for anything serious and you even said you’re not getting vibes he wants more. I think if you went for this, you’d end up getting hurt.
Why wouldn’t you tell him your intentions? If you wanted to spend every weekend with him it seems that would be the way to start.
When you say hang out you mean as friends or on a date? Sorry as a foreigner sometimes for me you guys say things in a very non defined way when talking about relationships so I get confuse. If he is just your friend and if you are the only one asking to hang out, yeah it can be too much every single week. Keep talking with him contantly, try to see him in a casual way if you work or study with him, ask him to go out with you sometimes, but no every single week, if he is interested, let he make a move too.
Whether or not he is aware or even admits it, he’s not ready meet anybody’s requests or demands right now. And if you continue to hang around hoping he’ll start to slowly shift his intentions in your direction, it’s not going to end well for you. I would advise keeping your expectations rock bottom and your eyes elsewhere for better prospects that can meet you where you are.