If your partner worked in an administrative role (like an assistant/secretary) and was earning a national average wage, would it bother you that they weren’t in a more “high flying” role?

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  1. I don’t really care if she is cleaning floors with her toothbrush earning minimum, as long she is happy that’s all that matters to me.

  2. Fuck no. Just as long as they have a job and they’re working full time we’ll make whatever work.

  3. As long as she’s happy in the job and her job doesnt bother me or our life together, i dont see why i should have a say in what she does for a living. My wife is part of the maintenance team in a home for people with mental dissabilities, she’s happy there and our bills get paid, that’s enough for me.

  4. Well considering my partner’s “job” is signing us up for several different streaming services, even though I’ve told her and shown her how to find literally any content she could ever want to watch online for free, I guess it just doesn’t bother me. She also has a doctorate in making sure Jeff Bezos doesn’t go to sleep without getting a little bit more of my money. She’s an expert at that.

  6. It matters to me that they are helping to contribute to our life together and that they are working toward their dreams. My partner has a specific career goal in mind as her long-term dream so she’s plugging away at it. But if her biggest dreams were not as career focused, I’d be perfectly happy with whatever job/career she took. As long as she is happy in it, of course.

  10. When I first learned about Reddit it was through a thread posted by a young professional woman, how this wonderful driven, educated, super ambitious guy was wasting his time with a woman that was living with her parents and how he should be with her. She made as much as him had a similar career path etc Super star chose the part timer. The part timer chose to live at home to help her sick parents, she chose to work a part time job because she needed to be close to them and had no other options. Though of a lower station, she made choices the reflected the kind of person she was. She would make sure family was taken care of, put people ahead of her career. See whether super star thought this far, his boss won’t be impressed with another power couple, penny a dozen, climbing the corporate ladder etc you bring someone that oozes compassion, kindness, generosity, that is the kind of person a Boss would be impressed with.
    Be a person of quality and be utterly true to your values.

  11. I wouldn’t mind. I know my girlfriend has a lot more in her then a mediocre job tho. She could definitely be a lawyer, and I will always push her to do better. But If she’s satisfied, I am too.

  12. As long as she’s good as I am at saving money & loves her work while also loving me then that’s all I need but I won’t stop her if she wants to try for a higher role someday

    I think it would upset me if she spends like Kardashian but earns like SpongeBob

  13. I don’t care about how much money a woman makes or what her job title is. She could work part time at burger king for all I care. It makes no difference if she makes 20k or 200k. Women care about income and job titles, but the same doesn’t apply to us men. Long as she’s attractive and has a good personality I’m good. When I’m asking out a lady or thinking about a long-term relationship. The thought of her income had zero impact on my decision.

    Men don’t look for security from women. Besides most guys can’t even get their girl to buy them a happy meal anyways. There’s no benefit in a woman making money from a relationship standpoint. Especially if the guy makes decent money himself.

  14. It doesn’t as long as she brings the same amount of money as I do. I’m PA and my girlfriend is NP.

  15. that kind of stuff never bothered me. I dated people who worked as waiters and had GED‘s.

    i’m more focused on them as a whole. If you feel weird about this job, try to see what you can expand in other parts of your life. It’s always a safe bet

  17. I honestly don’t care if they make $30k or $100k. That is so far down the list on what I consider important. Besides, I live a frugal life that won’t change no matter how much they make.

    Everyone’s experience is different and this is just an anecdote. The women at the higher end that make more than me tended to be a lot more miserable and constantly threw things like patriarchy and being oppressed in my face. Also, they tended to never say thank you when I put a lot of effort in. Very entitled. The women on the lower end were just way more enjoyable to be around and tended to enjoy life.

  18. I’ll take the opposite approach. Yes it does. See below. Note these are mostly gender agnostic:
    – No doctors (particularly hospital doctors): Lifestyle, high possibility of affair, potential smugness
    – No lawyers: never been good with lawyer chicks. They’re all kinda bitchy. Status chasers
    – Humanities College Professors: I just can’t. Smug, know-it-all but don’t know shit.
    – No sex work: Unless I get a 50% cut and the image doesn’t matter to my career or her

    Ultimately, what I look for is someone that would be able to support themselves financially without me! That’s the bar.

  19. Yes it does. I do not care about income I make enough, I do care about disrespectfull jobs like a stripper, onlyfans hooters etc.

  20. I don’t care about ‘high flying’ careers, but I’m probably going to have very different values and priorities from anyone who is content to be an office drone.

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