Throw away account, got a few family members on my main.
Basically my wife has for most of our marriage had a massive sexual aversion due to hyper religious and an abusive upbringing as well as a traumatic sexual experience in her teens. I am very open sexually, and I’ve been extremely patient waiting for her to open up about her sexuality.
So FINALLY she confided in me what I suppose is a kink and I want to facilitate it as much as I can and make it a positive experience for her. She confessed in a deep discussion about our sex life that she felt embarrassed to tell me that she often imagined she was a man with a penis having sex with me (still a man).
I suggested we explore it more and she was open and receptive to the idea. What are some ideas for our next time we have sex that can make the experience comfortable and a positive for her?
Tl;dr
Wife wants to have sex pretending to be a man, while I’m still a man, how do I facilitate this positively for her?
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I should add also, this led to a broader conversation of her sexuality which I encouraged her to explore. She basically said she feels very gender fluid rather than just specifically a female and I told her she should never feel guilty about that.
Pegging, the word you’re looking for is pegging.
Learn about anal sex for the receiving party and the preparation needed to have a fun and safe time. LEARN IT WELL. Don’t underestimate the time it takes to become comfortable with anal, you must take size into consideration (especially beginners). And be wary of any cleanup, this comes with the territory.
Shop for strap ons both you and her feel comfortable with. Some are double ended where she can also have it inside while the other end sticks out to peg you. Do remember that she can’t “feel” you directly with that strap on, hence why size is important to safety.
Since you’re so supportive of her, I doubt I’d need to tell you to praise and encourage her but you also need to voice your concerns as well if this is your first time.