I always hear of red flags in the early stages of dating that should indicate caution or a reason to not pursue a relationship with someone. But, what red flags turned out to be OK in the end (either it didn’t have any significant baring on the relationship or was a misrepresentation of the true situation)? Please share your interesting experiences!
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No such thing, either the person actually displays odd behavior that is off putting and you end things thereafter, or the person who labels everything they don’t expect a red flag, is a red flag him/herself.
Red flags are 90% an assumption….. w0men play scenarios in their heads all the time.
Eh….lets be clear in our language here. The symbol of a “red flag” denotes “danger” not “caution”.
If you are driving and you see a Yellow light you drive differently than if you see a Red light, right? Fact is that many dating folks get “yellow flags” all the time, and honest communication sorts them out satisfactorily. Red Flags are NOT “misunderstandings”.
Red flags are bits that indicate a warning for hurt to your emotional, social….maybe even physical well-being. I am often amazed at the terrible communication skills many folks on here indicate since these are the best tools for sorting out Yellow Flags. Authentic Red Flags have only one honest response. Stop. FWIW.
Love bombing, this is usually a red flag. I met this guy who I thought was love bombing. He bought me expensive gifts, took me to many expensive dates, wanted to see me everyday, asked me to be his girlfriend, would send me flowers and chocolates all the time, and treated me like a goddess in an matter of weeks of knowing each other. Basically too good to be true and moving too fast.
Months later he hasn’t changed, not even a little. He loves to give gifts and doesn’t hide his feelings. Turns out his “red flag” at the beginning turned to be a green one.