Im almost 34 and somethings I have realized when it comes to dating is:
They either like or they don’t. You can have chemistry, a great time together, and its still not enough.
Its a waste of time to try to be friends first. That is the most trash advice ever. You could try to be friends first and then find they don’t see you that way.
Water finds it level. Get your mental health in order. Or this shit will be unbearable. Then ask yourself if their mental health is in order. Or this shit will be unbearable. Your lover will not be your healer.
The red flags you ignore now will be the reason for the break up later. A healthy relationship will be a source of refuge not upset.
Thinking something can be when it cannot is how we break our hearts.
Rejection is not a reflection of you. Its a lot like poker. *Most of the game is folding.* You can do everything right and still lose. Just enjoy playing the game. Sometimes you need to walk away from the game and do other things.
Women and men are both human beings from planet earth. Thinking we are different will cause you trouble.
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I’m confused. If you have chemistry and have a great time together, Is that not the same as them liking you?
I agree with you that water finds its level. That’s why it’s flat, not a planet 🤫
Exactly thats why i say theres no such thing as dating advice when it comes to securing a date
>Its a waste of time to try to be friends first. That is the most trash advice ever. You could try to be friends first and then find they don’t see you that way.
I wasn’t aware that anyone gives this kind of advice, but yes .. it is indeed trash!
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>Rejection is not a reflection of you. Its a lot like poker. Most of the game is folding. You can do everything right and still lose. Just enjoy playing the game. Sometimes you need to walk away from the game and do other things.
Indeed .. Given enough time you’ll get a chance here and there (a good hand), but no matter how excited you might be at first, you’ll often get a lousy flow or a bad river and lose.
It’s mostly random. Just do your best when you get the opportunity and enjoy the ride whether it ends well or not .. All you can do. Then move on instead of lamenting. Shit happens
Acquaintance is the sweet spot for dating. Meet someone a few times and if the vibe is there make a move.
>Its a waste of time to try to be friends first. That is the most trash advice ever. You could try to be friends first and then find they don’t see you that way.
If we have chemistry and a great time together, I’d want to be friends regardless.