Just that. Say you’re in to someone, he fits what you’re looking for and you two click, but you then find out he’s had sexual experiences with other men in the past. Would it bother you?
Would it make a difference if he was fully bisexual, like dated men and women in the past? Or just “bicurious” never dating men but having experimented sexually with them, maybe FWB or hookups, but still strictly only wants to date women?
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Nope, not at all 🙂
Nope, personally I wouldn’t mind at all. There are women who would though, especially many of the religious women, or women who are anti-gay in general. There are many women like me who wouldn’t mind it at all though.
Nope, wouldn’t care
I’ve dated a guy who at the time before we met, identified as GAY, when we met said he was BI, and whilst we were dating said he no longer finds men attractive and is now STRAIGHT. This was all confusing to me and whenever I’d make jokes about me “turning him”, he’d get upset. Also, to be completely honest, a bisexual man would not be a “MANLY” man. So if that’s your preference, don’t date him. I didn’t have a great experience and since then, I’ve checked out whenever I meet a guy who’s bi, as there are personality traits they have that I’m just not attracted to e.g., loads of heightened emotions. A stereotypical straight man is what I’m attracted to. I don’t think it makes me homophobic, it’s just who I prefer to date and find most compatible with me. Same goes for someone who’s bicurious, I still wouldn’t be interested anymore. Been there, done that, not for me. So at the end of the day, it’s your choice really. If you’re still attracted to him, then you’ve got nothing to worry about.
It doesn’t make a difference to me. Everyone has a sexual history and who was in it doesn’t really concern me as long as my SO doesn’t have any STDs.
Yes it would be a turn off. I prefer to be with a purely heterosexual man. Imagining being with a guy or having sex with a guy and thinking how they like to suck dick and shit would turn me off. Sorry, but not rly sorry.
Nope wouldn’t do it. I was in a similar boat when I met this guy off a dating app. We had a great conversation, had a great time and I was really attracted to him, but at the end when he told me he was a bisexual and had been with men I was immediately turned off. Although I really liked the guy, I decided I couldn’t date him because something about that felt icky to me.
I actually am currently seeing a guy that told me on the first date he had previously gone on a date with a guy. I genuinely have never experienced someone so open so early and I loved it! And you know what? I’ve told all my friends now that bisexual guys just hit different to straight men now. They actually listen, care, build a friendship AND know how to pleasure way better than any straight man I’ve been with. I now view it as:
if the man I end up marrying hasn’t explored all his curiosities, especially the ones I can’t provide him (e.g. anything with a man, as I’m a woman) then I don’t believe he’s ready to commit for marriage because he will always have that curiosity that I cannot fulfil and he cannot explore without breaking the commitment of marriage, which I view as total monogamy.
Some people will find it a turn off, and others won’t.
I think you need to figure out your terminology though. Like could you see yourself having sex with men again? If you can, then you’re bisexual. But a one time experience you don’t plan on repeating seems more like experimenting and then figuring out what you want.
I would be honest with whoever you’re with. That’s a big thing to keep secret from a partner. She’ll either accept it or she won’t, and it saves you from being with someone who doesn’t accept you for you
I think I would probably worry a bit more about STDs and get thoroughly tested prior to being intimate. It’s something you should do with every partner anyways. Not every male who has sex with men is careless about STDs, but there is a very strong hookup culture and a lot of men don’t wear protection. But I feel like as long as there’s a conversation about it then it wouldn’t be a concern for me. Even though technically it’s not my business I still wouldn’t want to find out later.