I’m asking this on behalf of both me and my girlfriend. I know that the answer might well be ‘it depends’, but I’d still like to hear your opinions.
When having sex, what usually happens is that we’ll have a long-ass foreplay session to get the juices flowing, followed by PIV and occasionally anal. Nothing revolutionary really, with the exception that we like BDSM/bondage stuff, which tends to make the foreplay even longer. Additionally, if I end up cumming before she gets her fill of orgasms, I’ll take a breath and go down on her again.
Here’s the thing: whenever I give her a **purely clitoral** orgasm (either head or finger stimulation), she’s pretty much out of the game for a while. She enjoys them very much, but she ends up shaking, feeling cold, teeth chattering, and I can’t even *touch* her clit for a good 15-20 minutes. Honestly, I *love* seeing her out of her mind in pure bliss. However, sometimes she gets really close to orgasm during foreplay, and neither of us wants to ruin it, so I just finish her off, wrap her into a little spoon of joy and take a break until she calms down.
The interesting thing we’ve noticed is that this doesn’t happen during sex, through G-spot stimulation, vaginal orgasms or even when using a strong vibrator. For instance, if I’m fucking her doggy style and she cums while playing with herself, she can have consecutive orgasms, even though it was technically a clitoral one. Those aren’t as strong, but they usually lead to her cumming faster from PIV alone.
Now, none of that is problematic, and that small break can even make things feel better. However, she says that it sometimes breaks the momentum, and that she’d love to have multiple clitoral orgasms through oral sex or finger play. If I’m using my fingers, I apply tons of lube, and take good care to stimulate her *above* the clitoral hood, so I don’t know if this is something I’m causing, like irritating her clit. But no matter how gentle I am if I try to go at it again, it’s overpowering and she can’t take it.
Have you ever experienced anything similar? I haven’t seen this with previous partners, although admittedly my current SO has extremely strong orgasms in general. Again, I know it might just be how her body works, but it doesn’t hurt to get a second opinion.
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I’d like to know also. After my wife cums from clit action she is pretty much done and doesn’t want to be touched anymore. She’ll let me finish inside her via piv. But that’s it… I wouldn’t mind keeping her going as I can probably hold out for longer session
If he was strong enough to fuck my pussy, I would get rid of clitoral simulation. BUT I love to squirt on his face and rubbing my ass on his face for hours.
Sounds like you have it figured out.
You know what to do to make her want to keep going..
This happens to me, I didn’t know that there were women who could keep going over and over with clitoral orgasms. I deal with the same things as your girlfriend does after one orgasm in those ways. I don’t think theres anything you’re doing wrong or can do to prevent it. If you find out though let me know!
First off, it’s great that you have a really in-depth understanding of your partners body. It makes exploration of this type really easy and thorough.
Everyone has different tolerance levels and orgasms differ from how and what is stimulated.
If she can have multiple orgasms alone (like by herself) from clitoral stimulation, then in theory you could do the same for her together.
Alternatively, continue light foreplay/cuddling after the initial clitoral orgasm to preserve some momentum.
If all else fails, it can be a go-to happy ending for her.
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I need a break after a clitoral orgasm too. We have been using that time to plan or prep for the next part of the sex like if it is going to be anal I will take a quick shower or maybe we will talk about what we want to do next. Once I have a clit orgasm all stimulation needs to stop for anywhere from 5 to 15 minutes otherwise I get too tender or I will get desensitized which makes having the next orgasm impossible. There probably isn’t a way to ‘turbo charge’ it, actually.