So I was married for a very long time now divorced and out trying to figure out the dating world (33 f). I signed up for a dating site and the amount of attention I was getting was overwhelming. I’ve turned it off but had it down to maybe 5 guys im still talking with. I went out to dinner with the one that caught my attention the most at first and well it went well and I ended up sleeping with him which is out of the normal for me but it happened. He is still talking to me and interested in going out again.Now I don’t know what to do, do I get to keep talking with the other guys or do I focus on the one I’ve been out with? Or do I say yes to going out to dinner with the other one im interested in? And then do I just tell everyone involved hey so apparently I’m a little sluty and I’m seeing other dudes too?
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> I ended up sleeping with him
Well, there’s no end of interest you’ll get with first date sleepovers (hookups) imo. (ah, hmm, but is the first one still interested in you?)
If the volume’s a bit much, you could get them to take a number. –kidding
Should you be seeking a relationship, one approach would be texting a few times, a quick meetup for coffee to check for chemistry and unless you wow each other then and there (to stretch it into a proper first date), back to texting for a goodly bit and if things and interests are lining up, then booking the first date (with a typical intention of a sleepover on the 3rd or later date).
At some point, you’ll declare ‘exclusivity’ with one, and stopping seeing / chatting with a bunch of others.
As a man I feel like I look at a person drown while dying of thirst when i read about how easy it is for girls to find someone. In my opinion if you like one guy and think it can go somewhere, stay with dating one.