Hello all, I was in a 6 year relationship that ended 1 year ago. The relationship ended up being abusive emotionally, financially, and eventually physically. I have a lot of trauma from this. I also got extremely close to his daughter.
I’ve been in therapy the whole year since things ended and my therapist actually used to be our couples therapist! She was very supportive in me leaving this relationship based on how the sessions went. She has more insight than most therapists would in a situation. She has been extremely helpful.
I have been working hard to get in a better place and I have! I’m generally happy most days, I feel like I’ve overcome my depression and I can live a normal life finally.
So my question is, when do the nightmares stop? I still can’t sleep at night. I feel like most of my issue is that I never got to say goodbye to his daughter, how can I reframe my thinking in this being traumatic for me?
Also how do I let go of the feeling that I am missing out on the life I thought I was going to have(wife, mother, homemaker)?
It feels so silly to date and start over at this point.
Please share your “starting over” experiences! I’m expecting some big AH-HA moment that hasn’t happened yet.
Tldr; I was in a shitty relationship for 6 years, mostly healed, and now something is still stuck in that time period.