yeah, i know, you can say “nobody will love you until you love yourself” but i have suddenly become very isolated, gone through a lot of horror the last few months and am basically miserable all the time. i need to get used to making friends i can at least have fun with, but it can be so difficult to not get immediately emotionally exhausted by trying to pretend to be happy and fun.
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basically, i’m in a cycle of: the more miserable am the more alone i am. but the more alone i am the more miserable i get
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I have been in that situation and so I pick the times I feel most myself, most okay to force myself to ask others to hang out and the more I did this the more it becomes a routine that while I sorted out my head and allowed myself to heal I also had friends around me, you don’t have to be fun and sociable then for ages or consistantly then I could act for those few hours, I would be exhausted but then atleast as I was getting better I felt I had something to fall back on, just try to exclude the bad thoughts from the friends for as long as possible so they know you aren’t the bad thoughts and know you but then are there for you as support which everyone needs and you can prove the same to them as your friendship grows. usually add this with a club etc and you got it.