I went out yesterday to a bar and this guy approached me. We talked for maybe 5 minutes? And then he asked for my number. He wasn’t very cute, I imagine if I wasn’t into him drunk that I won’t be into him sober. I also hesitated when he asked for my number because I knew I wasn’t into him, but I absolutely loved that he approached me and how he did it and that he asked for my number. But because I hesitated I can’t imagine he’ll text me, which is understandable. My question is, if I’m almost 100% sure I’m not into him, should I still text him? I just moved back to the city and want to meet people as I really only have 1 friend here but I’m not sure if texting him would come off as being into him? I also was thinking of just texting him something about how it’s awesome that he approaches people when he’s out and just complimenting that and leaving it at that. It’s just the first time I’ve been approached and I want to do something with it, whether it’s encouraging/complimenting him or trying to be friends? If I were to text him what could I say?
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Just tell him “Hey, it’s *** from the other night. Thanks for approaching me, that was brave of you. I’m actually new to the city and looking for new friends and stuff, so I’m down to hang out if you want. And to be upfront, I’m not looking for a relationship or anything like that atm. If that’s alright, we can totally grab a beer or smth.”
Leave no ambiguity whatsoever.
“He wasn’t very cute” – you’re not a shallow at all. I’m sure you look like a super model. To top it off, instead of saying the classic ‘sorry I have a b/f’ you liked the attention and want to see if you can exploit it for a little while longer. You can’t make this up.
Just be honest with him. Don’t ghost him and don’t play him on. I hate it when people do that shit.