Hi all!
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My girlfriend and I have been intimate for 4 months or so now, and we are both younger adults. I am reaching out as we are trying to determine the issue with what is causing her discomfort from sex. Sex with a condom is typically okay (but not great) feeling at the start, and progressively starts to feel more and more painful, described as a tearing feeling. Raw sex, however, feels fantastic, but without birth control, it is very risky. She and I are great lovers, and I am not willing to let her take it if she isn’t feeling good too, so this is a very important subject for me. We have tried a latex-free condom, but that had no effect on how it feels for her. None of them have had spermicide either, so that wouldn’t be the cause of the pain.
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We think she may have Vaginismus but is undiagnosed. It is strange that raw sex would not cause similar pain, though. ANY help would be appreciated!
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EDIT: Lubrication is also not the issue, as her natural lubrication is usually more than enough to work with, and regular lube hasn’t helped either, just in case it wasn’t enough. We usually have a pretty long session of foreplay beforehand, so I wouldn’t consider that an issue either.
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Lubrication could be the problem
I had this issue with latex condoms, and I do not have latex allergy. I’m not quite sure what it is, but there seemed to always be more friction and I felt like I was being torn. So, I did some research and found that polyisoprene condoms are a good alternative…and boy, was that true. I started using SKYN condoms with my partner, and it’s made a world of difference! They feel better for him too, and he says it almost feels like he’s not wearing a condom.
More lube and better-quality lube.