My GF and I both 27, moved in together about 2 months ago. Been together 2 years. Our relationship seems great on the surface. Both of our friend groups have called us “Couples Goals”, We have similar life goals and basically never fight. The last few weeks though Ive noticed some big communication issues, and also just learned more about her that makes me reconsider everything. Just some things she’s done nonchalantly assuming I wouldn’t mind and when I brought up that I do her reaction was pretty distasteful imo. No hard feelings but I just don’t really feel how I used to and at our age I’d rather break things off while were both still young than waste each other’s prime years.
We just moved in together about 2 months ago though. I don’t know how to handle the considering part before actually doing it. I obviously can’t tell her Im thinking about doing it without us ending up breaking up. But also were just 2 months into a lease..I don’t even know where to start. Anyone here been in a similar situation?
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TLDR: Overall good relationship but starting to have my real doubts and don’t know what to do since we just moved in together
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If you truly see no means of recovering, then yeah you could end it now. It’ll be awkward and may take a hot minute to physically separate but it happens.
Consider sitting her down and discuss the things that make you feel off. Maybe you and she can work through the disconnect with some outside support.
If her responses were offensive or you have reason to feel in danger, then it’s usually better to sneak out and get safe, but if there’s a way to do that without blowing up your families and friends groups, it’s probably worth considering.
What were the things you’ve learned and what were her distasteful reactions? It seems hasty to jump to a breakup based on what you’ve shared here.
Moving in with each other is a huge life change. Doubts are normal but if you want to try and mend the relationship I would try and have a honest conversation about everything and how this is affecting you.