I’ve been chatting with this guy from bumble for about 4 weeks. It’s been going well, and the last couple of days we’ve gotten very comfortable with each other, and he’s asked me to send him a sexy picture (with my lingerie on).
The main problem is I haven’t met him yet, because we’ve been really busy and haven’t been able to organise a Meetup. Should I wait until we meet (which could be a couple weeks) or go through with it and increase (hopefully) the attraction? I’m not the most confident in my body. Im quite chubby, but have a big ass so maybe guys like that now, but it might be a turn off.
Any tips?
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Go for it. Maybe no face fir privacy
It’s up to you. I usually avoid any face or identifying things in the picture so you can always deny it if it leaks.
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Post it here instead
Don’t do it at all. One day you will regret it. It’s like a neck tattoo. today it’s cool but one day been you’ll regret it and can’t get rid of it
Just remember the internet is forever. And NO FACE or super identifying moles/marksâŠ
Like everyone said, no face for no regrets.
since you’re asking advice: I generally believe 4 weeks is on the long side for texting before meeting, a lot of investment without any return. That said it also seems like too long of a time for a con to get a picture for not good reasons.
Good luck out there, hopefully it is a fruitful stitch for you!
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You haven’t even met and you’re impression is gonna be ‘here’s my body – please validate it’. Is he/are you looking for a relationship? Or is he siffting through naked/lingerie pics to judge/pick and choose who he’s gonna go for? Because I can guaruntee you aren’t the only one, and it kind of gives me the ick to show a dude I haven’t even met yet what I look like dressed up for sex. Like who even are you to deserve seeing that? I hate that its so normalised.
Oh and 4 weeks of ‘talking’ is not ‘a lot of investment with very little payback’. Avoid anyone who thinks this way. They’re not interested in you. They’re interested in fucking you.
Of course if thats what you’re going for then go right ahead. This is exactly how you reel in a casual sex partner.
Up to you . If you feel comfortable do. If not just say lets wait till we meet
YES it is a really bad idea…
Wait until you meet. Thatâs all Iâm saying.
Thanks guys I’m not going to send it
Would you feel comfortable with his friend seeing it?
If so send it. If not don’t.
Do not do anything you don’t genuinely want to do. If it’s fun for you too then sure. But even then like someone else said make sure it’s an anonymous pic still incase he does the wrong thing with it
Donât do it. Why should you? Has he sent you any body pics?
Donât do it! Wait until you guys have more of a rapport in person. The right guy will wait.
Tell him you want a lingerie pic first. And he’s gotta really pose for you.
Kidding.
Pics should be willingly offered. Not sought after. Just my 2 cents.
Totally your choice….if he makes you feel comfortable then send the pic there’s nothing wrong in it
You already mentioned that you arent going to send it, but just adding my two cents…
Normally I would say yea, go for it… just don’t include face. However, because you met this guy via online dating, he already has pics of your face and therefore if he wanted to spread them he has your name, face and lingerie pics easily spread. Regardless of whether you send a faceless pic or not, bc of how online dating works he technically ALREADY has it.
Just something to add for other women who have a similar question.
Why would you chat for 4 weeks? thats the real story here.
Thereâs something about talking with someone face to face that texting just canât replace. Iâd wait until youâve seen and talked to each other in real life in order to gage whether this is someone youâd like to share your body with.
Yes. Stupid idea
Get to know the person. Actually get to know them in person. Or just share your pics online.
I get nothing out of sexting if I donât know, for a fact, that I have irl chemistry with the person on the other end. Will sending a pic be fun for you, or would you just be doing it for this man that youâve never met, who â for all you know â could be a catfish?
If youâre just looking for hookups then yeah if youâre comfortable with it, if youâre not looking for that then hard NO. But as someone whoâs seen many of the seedy places nudes end up online I recommend to anyone to give it a second thought.
Instead you should just organize a meetup, 6 weeks is crazy
I always say meet in person first.
As a dude I personally would enjoy the tease of knowing to either see it in person or put a face to a photo.
Everyone is different i know some people that would never send a photo and some that turns them on.
My ex and other women would send them both with or without face. Iâm not gonna complain or force them to do one or the other itâs their gift to me really Iâm just happy to be the receiving end.
I see you decided no already so thatâs good because if thatâs your more comfortable way go for it. Doesnât mean you said no forever just not yet for the fellow
I would personally wait to meet up unless youâre comfortable. Let this be your first ânoâ and see if he reacts like a lil beach
It is totally on you good idea will be not to share the pics until you spend some time togather