Lately, I realized I spend no less than 3h planning where to go with my date. I want them to feel special and every time I’m picking the place and attraction they would enjoy. We are in a kinda serious relationship, but still, I feel it’s too much! Any bits of advice?

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  1. How? What that isn’t a complicated week long vacation is taking you three hours to plan?

  2. Not something to really stress too much over…

    I was in a relationship with someone who was quite “active” and easily bored. So I spent quite a bit of time planning outings to unique places/experiences each week.

    It depends on the situation and demands I guess. But if it’s working out well, keep that going.

  4. I used every typical resource based on my interests and what I knew of hers.

    – I used Yelp a lot
    – I love live music so I downloaded apps that would alert me when a new tour was announced. The coolest for example which she loved, was seeing at the time the #1 rapper who’s tour stopped in his home town (LA) on a Friday evening at the then Staples Center. So I bought tickets and booked a room for the weekend at the JW Marriott there at LA Live. We made it a weekend trip basically. Rooftop dinner reservations, etc…
    – I subscribed to local e-magazines/publications. So I always knew about local festivals, new restaurant openings, etc. Most of those you can customize based on the notifications you desire.
    – Also challenge yourself to think outside the box. Sometimes you’ll get ideas randomly without even thinking. Like once, I thought about horse back riding since we lived in a major city. Like, where could we do that? Well, our city was near beaches and I found out they offered horse back rides on the beach! It was awesome.Some people made a day of it and picknicked on the beach too – for an additional fee…

    I love this stuff. I prided myself on blowing away other dudes because to.be honest, it wasn’t that difficult to do. Not bring cocky, but the average guy is so basic with planning dates. Its not even always about spending money. I don’t have a yacht. I don’t have my own private jet on a tarmac. But spending a little more time to be creative pays dividends. It’s great for both of you.

    And she helped out too. We eventually didn’t work out but it wasn’t anything to do with dates/activities. She was cool.about sending me emails or text at work with things she thought we should do. It’s great when they help – takes some pressure off.

  5. Is it really special if you do this *everytime?*

    Whatever you do, make sure she never finds out that you spend 3h planning dates. Honestly I would be put off by that tremendously, because it seems extremely obsessive.

    when I was in my early 20s I asked a bartender for advice on what I should text this girl. he told me: “if she’s the right girl for you, it doesn’t matter what you say”

    If she is good for you, it doesn’t really matter where you take her.

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