I recently had sex with my girlfriend and it wasn’t as pleasing as i thought it would be. I always dreamed of it as a fantasy but now that i had it i didnt enjoy it much as i thought i would. I cant come either i dont know if its due to me wearing a condom or me just not enjoying it rather it just feels like i lost my dick as we have sex. Maybe its my first time but I’m not sure if i do enjoy it
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Pretty normal for a first time to be underwhelming. See how you feel by #3 or #4.
Condoms do affect sensation a little, yes. But you can get used to them. Make sure they are the right size, they don’t all fit all penises and too tight will numb you. You might want to try masturbating with condoms, maybe *only* with them until it just is a part of being sexual to you.
Another thing that comes into my mind are expectations. Did you expect vagina to be tight and squeezing? Because they’re not that, at all. Porn vocabularity might make you believe in ’tightness’ but real vaginas are more roomy when aroused. Vagina on the inside perceives touch, and feels like, your inner cheek. I would also liken the ’squeeze’ of vagina to putting to finger against your teeth and letting the relaxed cheek just lay against the finger. Not exactly the same, but that’s much closer to the amount of pressure, than your squeezing hand might be.
Also, maybe nerves? If you’re anxious and not relaxed, that can diminish the pleasure a lot.