Hi everyone,
I work with this guy, and it’s pretty clear he likes me. He stares at me when he thinks I’m not looking, and then when I catch him, he looks away. The other day I was sitting next to him in a meeting, and his hands were so sweaty, they left the table wet. He can’t look me in the eye. Around other people, he avoids and ignores me, but is nice to me otherwise.
He sent me a message on Facebook today about something relevant to our work. I replied and thanked him, and then said I’d love to pick his brain sometime. Then I sent another message and said I hoped it didn’t sound too weird.
He replied and said it didn’t sound weird, he was just busy at an event, so hadn’t had time to reply.
I don’t understand – he’s showing signs of interest, but doesn’t seem interested in even hanging out outside of work. I’m considering asking him out. Maybe just as friends to begin. I don’t want to make things at work awkward. How should I do it? What do you suggest?
Thank you!
tl;dr Guy at work seems like he’s interested, but doesn’t seem interested in spend time together outside of work. Should I ask him out?
3 comments
Are you sure he‘s not taken?
You could always ask him out for coffee. But think carefully about the possibilities first, if things go wrong, how would you feel having to see him day after day, and what is the policy on dating at your workplace? some don’t mind , in others it’s frowned upon
yes please