So I (28m) am in a long term and very healthy and loving relationship with my partner (26f) she means everything to me and is my teammate in everything. We have been through thick and thin and have had rocky times but always return to gushy love like it’s a honeymoon. I would never leave her never cheat on her.
My problem is I don’t know how to move on past my ex. She was the perfect balance of me, she was beautiful, she knew my heart and believed in me and is the only person I’ve ever wanted to be a mother to a possible child of mine. This doesn’t matter anymore. We broke up in mutual agreement because I fell into an unhealthy place and needed to resolve that till we could continue our relationship and then time passed, etc…I moved across country reinvented myself and met this woman I truly love and worship. Despite this I cannot get my ex out of my daily thoughts and at least monthly dreams. I do miss her, but I would never change my situation for it. I just don’t know how to work through this because talking to my partner who I always would go to doesn’t feel like a respectful option and might her hurt her a lot.
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Seek therapy instead. And you honestly should’ve done that before dating your current girlfriend.
To me it sounds like you have one-itis over ex. This is a fantasy. No girl is that good. I’d try to course correct and stay with the good girl you have. Good girls are very rare. I’ve met like four confirmed good girls in my life. You don’t blow that off for a ghost.