A little background info –
We’ve been dating for a while now, a year. Our relationship has always been full of love and new adventures. Last week, my boyfriend asked to take a break from me because he started losing feelings for me. I was absolutely crushed. As days went on, I started to feel better. The only thing is, I stopped caring about him. I lost most of my feelings for him. I started seeing his flaws. Now, I don’t know if I should continue. Our break is supposed to end pretty soon, but I don’t know if it’s worth continuing. I feel more free and like myself without him. I just don’t know if I should let go for once and for all. I used to have dreams of marrying him. Should I try to regain feelings for him? Part of me doesn’t want to, but I don’t want to say goodbye to all of our memories, his family or our friends. We’ve gone through so much in our relationship too. He seems to want to continue but I’m so split on this. What should I do? Do I let go? Or should I keep trying?
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He said he lost his feelings for you, did he tell you he regained them? Because it doesn’t sound like he’s genuinely into you at all either
Honestly if you feel more like yourself and more free without him then you shouldn’t get back together with him. If you get back with him and don’t regain those feelings you might start resenting him later on. You said part of you doesn’t want to regain those feelings then don’t. You don’t have to continue the relationship just because you don’t want to say goodbye. You could try to have a sit down conversation and explain that the break made your feelings for him change. You could hear him out and see if you can stay friends so you don’t have to say goodbye to everything and end it on good terms. If he doesn’t want that then you will have to give him space and maybe say goodbye if he feels you cannot stay friends after he gets over the breakup.
A “break” is usually what someone suggests when they want to sleep with someone else without it being “cheating”. I would tread lightly here