First time poster here but I really need some advice!
I’ve been with my partner for almost 6 years now. We’re very open and keen to talk about sex. We’ve been to live sex shows, strip clubs together etc. We used to love to buy new toys and try them out and we talked about sex stuff a lot.
As for many couples sex has kinda become a routine for us, and as a whole I don’t really mind, I’m pretty satisfied with it as it is. We both always orgasm and it’s very intimate. Only problem is that I would like to get out of the routine once in a while, try new stuff and explore my turnons but I cannot for the life of me ask or say anything during the sex. I have no issue discussing or expressing my needs casually when we’re just talking outside of the bedroom but when it comes to being vocal in bed I have the biggest mental block ever. I’ve tried to guide them with my hands but it never ends up the way I would want it and it’s very clear it’s the communication that’s lacking.
In my head I feel like a very sexual and kinky person but in real life it usually ends up pretty vanilla. (nothing wrong with that I just wish we could explore some more).
How do I get passed this mental block? Where do I even start? I just don’t want it to feel awkward expressing myself midst act.
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If being vocal is hard, focus on being more “vocal” with your hands and body during the sex. For some people, I know it’s hard for them to make any sounds at all. It was like that with my ex.