Hi,
So I am a freshman at university. The university just started but my social life isn’t improving, like it feels impossible to talk to new people. Some friends I have go out with their friends or make new friends instantly. I don’t know how and where to start. Like everyone got invited to this frat party but me, everyone hangs out and cooks with each but me and I don’t know what to do. I have no social confidence or self esteem. It makes me feel like shit because I’m not academically blessed nor am I socially confident. I just want to have a friend group to hang out with and laugh but now it just seems impossible
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On campus, there’s people wanting to make friends all over the place.
1. Stop watching porn
2. Start chatting up a whooole bunch of people you are not attracted to and learn what gets good feedback (smiles, laughter, interest in their eyes and based on what questions they ask) and what gets the opposite.
Using what you learn in this process, talking up strangers will come naturally to you over time and each time you get small nuggets of positive feedback from whoever it boosts your confidence.
I met people just by walking around and smiling. Smiling really is contagious so there’s a simple way of doing it. U could also get involved in clubs/meetings or even intramurals/sports. I talked to a bunch of ppl and made friends just by going to hoop on the court. Plus, if u do choose to join a academic or social fraternity it looks great on your resume! Hope that helps.