Me (M) and my Ex boyfriend (together for over 3 months, we broke up 2 weeks ago due to his mental health) were having a conversation tonight. And he brings up how one of my closest friends is extremely “pushy” and was “all over him” the one time they hung out. Which was back in December. To give context me and my Ex started off as friends and then started flirting. We had a conversation about what we were and became basically friends with benefits, it just evolved from there into a relationship. Back in December about a week before our first date, and a few days before him and I decided we were anything other than crushing on eachother, him and my friend hang out at his house. Now she had told me a few days after this had happened that they had a kiss and it was just a peck. Little upset not a big deal.. A week later she tells me they full on made out. More upset, still not too pissed. 3ish months later I now find out she got all grabby, persistent, and sucked his dick. And then told him to not say anything to me because I’d be “weirded out” And then for a while after she kept trying to have sex or hang out with him. He declined her advances as we were starting to “date” and he also had no feelings for her. I had asked her a couple times if all they did was make out and she always insisted that was all. Even said that he was the one lying to me by not telling me they kissed. She knew that I was into him, and that we were going to date. I just don’t understand in what world is it okay to make sexual advances on your bestfriends love interest?? She is polyamorous and has often talked about being in a relationship with me. And I have always told her that I am not poly, and not into her. She also often says or talks about sexual things that make me quite uncomfortable. While him and I were dating she would say things like “he dosent hang out with you unless there’s sex or drugs” or “I’m better than him you should be with me lol” or other little things like that. I’m so pissed at her. She knew how I felt about him and knew that I wouldn’t be okay with it. Even went as far as to make sure he never said anything to me. Am I wrong for being upset? What should I say to her?
TL,DR: My close friend made sexual advances at my boyfriend before we dated but she knew I was into him
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