Hello, I (22m) am currently seeing(?) a (21f) work colleague, we’ve been on four dinner dates and over the past few weeks she has come around and we’ve watched movies/started a series.
First off apologies for how this is written, writing as I think.
She’s coming over again this week where I will most likely take her to dinner beforehand then back to mine to watch the series. She’s slept at my place a few times where nothing has happened as I don’t want to force anything or make her uncomfortable in my house.
I’ve recently been off work for a few weeks and during that time we texted daily and called a couple times. Since coming back is when all the dinner dates and movies started.
I’ve never really been in a long-term relationship and moved away from home alone at 19 so I’ve built everything I have alone. I constantly see everywhere men having regret after showing feelings to women so although I want to and will most likely confess Wednesday that is constantly on the back of my mind.
We work within the same company, different areas, I’m in a position of power in this job which also makes me nervous of repercussions.
We have mutual friends that have asked me if anything has happened/when I’ll do anything, I’m not a super confident person so have been trying to pace myself, but at the point where unless I make a move it won’t go anywhere.
I haven’t exactly been out looking for a relationship as I’m mostly just working on my career and building myself up, but also don’t know if I want a relationship as I’ve never really had one, I’ve felt lonely at times and since hanging out with f21 it has opened me up a lot more and I do really like this person.
TLDR; I’m another lost young adult asking for advice on what I should do next.
1 comment
One very important thing you’re missing, you mostly only see men having regrets over sharing how they feel from the most dramatic situations. Because drama gets talked about and shared. Very rarely do you see someone post positive private things, as people in healthy relationships rarely have time or the need to do so. You only hear the loudest, maddest people.
If you are not completely out of line or misreading your situation, which from your post, you’re not, go ahead and be honest with your girl. Just, be reasonable, don’t go overboard with ‘i love you, will you marry me’, consider how much you know eachother and what feelings you can realistically claim, so that she can believe you.
If any girl ever reacts horribly at a confession of feelings, she’s a drama llama and should be avoided at all costs. They spit and it smells nasty!