How many times have you been approached romantically?

32 comments

1. 0, 25 years.

2. 420, 69

3. 25M, never.

4. Never, 37

5. 0 times. I’m 44.

6. A lot honestly but it didn’t usually start like “you’re cute” or “you’re hot can I get your number?”. Most women are more subtle than that. It was usually more like “hey give me your number and I’ll send you that” or “hey here’s my number you should send that to me” when referring to something like a link or picture. Then that would usually lead to texting back and forth and more “sinister” messages lol I’m 32

7. Once, 15m. But it was from some creepy guy on the train so I don’t want to count that one o_0

8. Never had anybody ask for my number, but I’ve had a couple of people slip me theirs. I’m 37

9. Zero times…..I’m 39.

10. i am 32 years old and not a single time has anyone, man or woman, approached me in this manner.

11. Once but it was online. I don’t think a girl has ever started even a convo with me irl outside of work or back when I was in school

12. Never. I was always the one making the first moves

13. Never, 35m

14. 0 times, 32 years old

15. 0

16. Never

17. I’ve had it happen a few times and I’m 32. It always felt great when it happened and I always gave them credit for doing that when most women don’t

18. 53/m……never

19. 0, 31 y/o

20. 2, 43m.

    Usually women approach by flirting and then you give out your details. That’s happened plenty of times.

21. zero times in my now 27 years of life

22. I met 2 girls from a mutual friend at the bar , when we were chatting one said gimme your phone and she put her number in . Then when I was leaving the other girl did the same .

23. 24M, NEVER lmao

24. 4 times , im 51

25. Never

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27. 0, 30 years

28. That’s not how it works. I watched it once in real time.

    I was traveling with a very attractive co worker. He and I were sitting at the airport and a woman comes and sits next to him. She lightly interjects herself into our conversation and (HERES THE MAGIC BEHIND THE CURTAIN I SAW) her male coworker walked up after whatever he was doing.

    She spotted him walking that way and hand gestures for him to go somewhere else.

    She didn’t ask him for anything she made herself overly available for him to ask.

29. Once, it was a peacock. I was flattered but politely declined, as that would be beastiality. 33M

30. I’m so surprised by all these zeros. I’m F26 and have approached and initiated every partner I’ve had. If you wait on him it may never happen so I just started talking first. More women should do this!

    Edit-grammar

31. Been approached numerous times in a few decades but but it’s rarely been like you describe. Women generally love plausible deniability, so they might toss you specific eye contact or a smile, or sit near you, or initiate a conversation. And this is supposed to be recognized as an invitation for you to engage in some banter, after which one of you might make a more direct move. It’s much more rare for a a girl to just lead in with a direct statement of attraction.

    I’d suggest honing your attention to indirect invitations and subtext, and I’d point out that the indirect approach can be useful for you too. If you just walk up to strange women and immediately ask for their numbers, most will reject you. But if they have some attraction and the timing works, then your chances are much better after you’ve had a fun chat together so you have had a chance to screen each other a little.

32. 3, 25. Im shocked by the amount of people saying 0. Im not even an attractive guy