Hey guys,
Just reflecting on some recent experiences and would love to hear your related ones/your thoughts.
So long story I am a man in my early 20s and am in my first year of full time life. In my first year of university I did something different in cafeer path to what I am now and mostly had a shitshow of a year then but there wrre some people who I enjoyed hanging around including this girl who was in a group in one of my courses in the first semester (barely talked but I found her nice and pretty – lol).
In the one course we could choose that year, this person happened to be in my one (so we chose the same class, and ended up in the same time lol coincidentally). Sat next to her for a while, although I was really awkward and shy back then and couldnt think of much more to talk about other than stuff related to it iirc. I think at one point she decided to sit somewhere else which made me sad but I always remembered her being nice otherwise through her demeanour. For the rest of that year I assumed she didnt really think much of me and left it, although for the good things I always had a soft spot for her. After that year I changed degrees and that was it – for then.
Then graduation comes and I thought it was a good chance to connect with friends from uni and potentially reconnect with people I hadn’t seen/talked to in a while who i thought i was on good terms with. Note that for the latter, depending on busyness they may not come esp if you aren’t were never close. So i made an event and invited some people including her, and didnt expect much.
But soon after i invited her, she messaged me congratulating me and giving her number without me even asking (i mentioned we never really met outside of class before right?) And so we ended up meeting for dinner and we learned a lot about each other and especially what we did last few years and are doing now. I enjoyed it a lot and it’s fair to say my feelings resurfaced. Unfortunately when i asked she said she has a bf but i enjoyed talking to her and learning more about her world (which i never knew of in that first year we met). maybe even after these few years where we ended up branching into different things, we could at worst be good friends? I don’t think it would hurt me, it’s just that it feels strange how imo we weren’t close in that first year before we psrted for a few years then after that we have really deep intomate convos about everything when we are together. I’m not used to that at all, especially as someone who can be suspicious of people’s intentions
Sorry if this was rambly lol it could be way longer if i told the story fully. But tldr anyone reconnect with an old acquaintance/crush they had who they hadnt seen for a while (and did different things in that time) only to become closer? Really keen to hear your experiences/perspective on this.