My husband have this very common fantasy of a threesome with me and another girl. He says he doesn’t want the girl to touch him or have anything with him, he only wants the girl to be on me and it’s all about seeing me with another girl.
I am straight but I do admire a nice curvy female body but I don’t imagine kissing and getting sexual with girls, but sometimes I fancy myself Hugging and make out with a girl just because I know my husband mind’s will be blown and it turns him on.
Now I’m really confused, how can I know if I will like it with girls?
And is it even a good idea to do a threesome when I’m not really sure?
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Your don’t have to be heterosexual or lesbian, there’s a lot in between.
And as your main interest seems to be pleasing your husband you’re definitely in the more heterosexual part of that spectrum.
You’re Bi-Curious. Well that way to find is to make out with a girl and see whether it’s weird for you or not.
It’s not either/or. There seem to be a vast range or degrees of interest in the same sex – and that seems to vary over the course of your life.
So the question is, is this something you feel comfortable to do? Will it be exciting, meh or disturbing for you. Reddit can’t answer that. Your best bet is to try to incorporate some FFM fantasies or erotica into your masturbation and see how you react. If it is disturbing, don’t do it just to please your H. But if not, you might have a wonderful time and the pleasure of knowing you fulfilled one of your H’s fantasies.
I’m always in favor of trying new things.
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The simple answer is: No you are not a lesbian.
But also, congratulations, you’re likely one of those people who get aroused by sexually pleasing your partner. That can be a lot of fun if you can get them to share what they like. Guys aren’t particularly attractive to me, but they’re ok. If my partner had a fantasy of me sucking a guys dick, because it would be super hot to her, it would be super arousing to me. Outside of that context, it doesn’t hold a lot of interest to me.
You may be somewhat bisexual or other, and you may find out more with experience.
If you’re open to it and think you may enjoy it, you likely would enjoy it even if women don’t rev your motor.
**That said, threesomes risk jealousy and related problems.** If you decided to do it, discuss with your partner what you’d like to happen. Make some hard rules and soft rules. Then discuss what soft rules you may change by mutual consent during sex and which are hard rules. For example if you agree that the third is only between you and her… and you’re kissing her while he’s fucking you… all may decided it would be cool for you to ride him while she kisses you and she straddles his face… it was against the rules when you started, but you all may agree to change the rules on the fly.
**If there are things that you are uncomfortable with, especially if they are partner related, make them Hard Rules before hand.** Make it clear those hard rules won’t change even if everyone thinks they want it at the time. That way you can be confident you won’t be pressured to have lines crossed it the heat of the moment even if you change your mind later. For example, if you set a hard rules that his penis should not go inside her. During the event you’re drunk with sex, you decided it would be super hot to watch her ride him… Hold off! Tell them “hey, next time I want to watch you ride him! It’s a good excuse to plan on doing it again! More importantly afterwards you are less likely to regret something that happened in the heat of sex.
There’s a good document here that might help you figure this out: https://www.docdroid.net%2FN46Ea3o%2Fcopy-of-am-i-a-lesbian-masterdoc-pdf&usg=AOvVaw3rslarvqBLz2cMZlkC0F5R
I would say that the fact you are not disgusted at the idea of being with another woman means you are probably open-minded enough to at least give it a try.
My advice would be to use the dating apps, put in your description:
Happily married, possibly bi-curious woman looking for another woman just for FF and husband watching.
First time experiencing so I’m nervous.
If you are up and above board about it, probably quite a few women would be interested in the idea.
Now, there are a few things to consider before going ahead with this which some other commenters have already touched on.
FF / FFM is great in fantasy, but when it is turned into reality it can cause issues like:
Jealousy, also, once you try it once, sometimes if it is for a partner and they like it but you don’t, then it can put a strain on your relationship because they see it as you refusing to try something for them.
One thing that hasn’t been touched on by the commenters which can happen, sometimes the person who thinks they are straight and does something for their partner ends up realizing everything they thought they knew about themselves gets turned upside down, aka they realize suddenly they preferred what they tried over what they been doing for many years.
So, have a good talk to your husband first before going ahead with anything, set up some ground rules together, and make sure you got each other’s back so all your bases are covered.
Best of luck going forward.
If you’re sexually attracted to your male husband then you aren’t a lesbian. You might be bisexual but it doesn’t sound like you’re sexually attracted to women so much as turned on by doing something that you know arouses your partner. So it’s not really about being with another woman that turns you on, it’s about doing something that you know arouses him. Which is fine but definitely not the same thing as desiring to suck a titty because you want them in your mouth for your own sexual gratification lol
Just say no. Lol. Remember your wedding vows when you said “forsaking all the rest?” My wife and I fantasize about a threesome with a woman sometimes.. but we both know that is ALL it is. Pure fantasy and not ever going to be reality. She enjoys looking at hot women and we watch lez porn together, and mff threesomes, but our love for each other and commitment to remain completely faithful is what keeps us from actually doing it. A threesome can seriously ruin a relationship. What if you or your spouse don’t get what you want want out of it? What if he gets jealous when he actually sees you with someone else? What if you discover you are more pleased by a woman than your husband? What if more is done during the threesome than discussed, or things are done that were agreed on not being done? I freaking love the idea of a threesome with my wife and another woman, but yeah.. it just couldn’t happen.
“*And is it even a good idea to do a threesome when I’m not really sure?*”
No. it’s really not a good idea.