Not sure where I stand with this. I (29M) had a date with a woman (29F) after matching on OLD. The date went well, I walked her back to her place and we agreed that we would both like to meet up again, but she warned me that she’s “bad at replying to texts”. No problem. Take at face value. Think nothing of it, but make a point not to come on too hard in the frequency of messages I send in the future.
Since then it’s taken on average 2-3 days for her to respond to each of my messages (I normally leave it about a day to respond to not seem too keen in contrast). Again, no problem, we both have lives to live. In fact, I have suggested meeting up again and she’s suggested days that work for her. Great.
My only question after chatting with some friends is if there’s a chance that she might just feel obligated to go on another date, but she’s trying to give me a hint that she isn’t that keen?
Anyone ever been on the giving/receiving end of something similar that could give some advice?
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How frequently did she text before the date?
Unfortunately girls you meet on OLD usually have multiple streams of attention. It’s likely she is talking to a a couple other guys so she feels no obligation to keep you engaged.
For women, finding a man to treat them is no rare commodity so I’d focus on her actions to judge her more than her texting skills. I know it’s frustrating as we’ve all been there
I think if she keeps putting off the next date it would be a sign that she is not that interested to go out again. I think generally if someone is truly and really not into something you’ll procrastinate and give every excuse in the world to delay it and not do it. If you feel this has been the case I think it’s time to try and invest in other people. Have you been direct and asked when is a good day to solidify plans?
Absolutely not