Hello, I am 19F and have dealt with social anxiety, and I’m scared to talk to people bc I’m scared of being boring

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1. I think in your situation you should just ( practice ) you can’t say that you’re scared your whole life… Just imagine you stayed on zone … Scared to talk to people cuz theyay think you’re boring… Two years later you’ll be 21 without any new experience… But if you just tried to talk to people without thinking if they will think you’re boring or not … Trust me you will gain alot of friends… Even in the worst cases if you feel that someone you talk about is feeling boring cuz of you you can just fix this in your personality and all is done! And wait wait 😆 how did you know you’re boring without even trying to talk with people?? Maybe you start to talk and people find you funny ? So the best solution for this is practice and just try it !

2. I just talked about the same problem in my last comment. I will say it here again. People like suggestion/opinion.

   I know it sounds so horrifying how can people like giving them Input? but majority of people want to know your perspective. e.g. you are talking with someone and If you give Insight on something, the conversation will stay continue. convo can go him disagreeing or agreeing or moving totally in different direction or anything. However, If you stay sacred to talk about something like thinking what if bored this person or offend this person then this convo will never go somewhere.

   After few days the person going to tell you something and ask your view about on something because previously you were honest with him. They want to know your view.

   I know its quite easier said then done but you need to at least Try. Trying is the key.

3. You can watch podcasts to try to pick up on social skills when having a casual conversation. I recommend Trevor Wallace’s podcast (they talk about sex a lot but they’re funny comedians and are improv masters)

4. The short answer is that you need to stop perceiving yourself as unworthy of conversation.

   Your goal should not be to have a good personality or be a fun person. Those are subjective ideas that you already decided you don’t fit into. Instead you should actively try and engage with others in a fun, positive way.

   You want the feeling of fun conversations and beneficial friendships. Start doing things that give you these feelings, rather than waiting for yourself to become a fun person.

5. If you’re scared to talk to people, then assume that people are also scared to talk to you
   for the most part I always feel like people mirror my mood in social situations