how do you guys get rid of unwanted fetishes

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1. How bad is the one in question

2. How unwanted is it?

3. I’ve never had to. So I guess that means I’ve never had an “unwanted” one…

   If it’s problematic, please seek out therapy. If it’s just embarrassing, then idk. People are into all sorts of stuff, so your embarrassment may be unwarranted. But if it’s really something that bothers you, then again, talk to a therapist about it. I can’t think of any other solution for “getting over a fetish”, at least not without know more details.

4. Aversion therapy?

5. I’ve been fortunate enough to find a girlfriend who actively encourages anything fetishy or kinky either of us might come up with so it’s never been an issue.

   In your shoes I would ask myself how much of a necessity is this fetish, how bad it really is in the general run of things – like rape fantasy is pretty run of the mill and doable with discussion, spanking is almost normal, choking needs a bit of knowledge so you don’t end up with one of you on a slab, watersports (piss play) is getting more normalised – and so on, but most of all I’d be questioning whether I had enough compatibility with whoever I was with who was putting me down or otherwise making me feel like the fetish was unacceptable.

   There’s someone for everyone out there and if the one you’re with isn’t doing it for you, there’s ways of finding someone who is.

   If you’re embarrassed or disturbed by a fetish, know that it’s ok to express your sexuality however you want. The trick is to come to terms with it in your own head.

6. Like?

7. You don’t really. If it’s something criminal then you’d have to get outside help like therapy or counseling. Anything else is fine and you really shouldn’t worry about it.

8. Never had one I didn’t enjoy fapping too.

9. Stopped watching porn and now no longer chase after the weird shit that I was after

10. Depends why you want to get rid of them, unless theres an underlaying desire that will overpower the want for the fetish, it can be real hard work.

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    Avoidance works well as it creates a habit to not do it, but that only really works if you are the collecting points for the “dont want to do it” side.

11. find something disgusting about the fetish and traumatize yourself a little bit with it everyday