Do you consider yourself your SO’s protector? Why or why not?

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1. No.

   She has several guns.

2. Let’s just say, I wouldn’t have someone’s back, if they didn’t have my back.

3. No but that doesn’t mean I won’t. Didn’t enter this relationship to be a protector.

4. not really. just in a dangerous/threatening situation, I will be the first one to be in danger or be threatened and I will do everything in my power to ensure she is either never in danger or able to escape the danger.

   same thing for my kid.

   and in the event of us all being in a dangerous situation I will ensure he is the first out of danger, then my partner, then me.

   cause I’m sure they wi survive without me, but I will not survive without them.

5. Nope. She doesn’t need that from me, never had. She’s a certified trainer for rescue in land, air and sea, licensed to drive almost every vehicles and crafts. She makes more money than me, she’s 28 and have risen to the top of her job(emergency response, no one in the region can start anything without her approval and she has risen on every occasion where she was needed), that’s how awesome she is.

   So no, she doesn’t need me to protect her, be it physically, financially, or emotionally. We are married for almost a decade in a few months (yes, we got married early), and we’re still acting like newlyweds according to our friends.

6. Yes, and I also see it as the reverse. It’s a team game.

7. I suppose so. It isn’t just a gender thing, I dated a former military and then FBI agent once and Id have put my money on her over me in a fight.

   But my wife, she’s no coward or weakling, but Ive had a lot more exposure to training and risky situations and Im physically significantly larger. I was a Child Protective Services investigator, worked in a locked mental hospital, a probation officer, and did martial arts and weapons training since I was little. In scary situations, we’re both going to be fine with letting let me take whatever on.

8. The one and only time we sparred going full out, she cleaned my clock.

   And she looks half my size.

   I am almost 6 foot and she is 5-7, but she is damn near 2x as fast as I am.

   If we got in a situation, of course I am going to jump right in but I know she will have my back.

9. Protector sure why not?

10. Yeah, because I would kill for her or die for her.

11. I would not be with someone whose mouth writes checks that my @ss has to cash.

12. Advocate, supporter, biggest fan, those are some of my roles. I might be protective in those roles but I’m not, as a role, their protector, no. In fact to fullfilll my roles I sometimes have to Not be their protector,, but I don’t ahy away from it when it’s called for, and it’s usually more emotional/psychological than physical

13. Yes, and she considers herself mine. Neither of us need it, but we’re both there for the other.

14. I mean, it’s not my designated role, but…

    I’m extraordinarily protective of my partner, and of my loved ones in general.

    My partner knows I’d kill or die for her or her kid.

    I train martial arts seriously, and a large part of my motivation for doing so is to be able to protect myself, her, and her daughter..and hopefully teach them how to protect themselves.

15. Not his protector but I keep him healthy. He often gets into spats and injuries. He came home late one night covered in his own vomit and blood.

    I’ve basically become his personal home nurse, and it works out since I’m doctor 🤷‍♂️

16. Meh? If shit goes down people act to their ability. I’m more capable of violence than she is, but it’s not a major component of my identity or a defining factor of the relationship. It’s just a practicality if that should ever happen.

17. Not just her’s, but pretty much everybody’s and everything’s. Some more than others, though, obviously. That’s why I’ve done the jobs I’ve done.

18. More like a bodyguard. She’s always doing something dumb and I tell gyro stop before I have to get into a fight. I worry about her when she goes out alone.

19. Yes. I’m bigger and stronger than she is and she likes me to fill that role.

20. Physically speaking, sure I guess. I’m a lot bigger and much stronger, so I’ll physically step in if needed/asked. Otherwise, no. She can take care of herself; she isn’t a child that needs protecting. She’s a hell of a lot smarter than me and more mature.