Messed up family

In the past years. My parents are fighting a lot at the age of 60 and 70 for family matters. My brother’s job with my uncle’s company, my sister’s decision to move to another country with her husband without telling us when they were planning. I am the little one in the family and I find myself the most mature one among all of them.

My brother and sister behave like children and continously involve their parents, who are supposed to be old, into their matters in the worst possible ways. My brother keeps blaming them for forcing him into my uncle’s company, when in fact, he joined it with his own will and it was his dream job and like any other job, he encounters difficulties. But when he does, he calls them and keep whinning.

My sister has been planning this move with her husband for months it seems and she told my mother only recently, which made her furious. My mother does not want to admit it but she does not want all of us to move out, especially my sister who is married and even her husband’s situation is very good and she believes that there is no need to move to another country and start from scratch with a messy plan.

I was the one who, since university, only gives them the good news and hides the bad ones. I’ve learned to deal with my own problems by myself without being a child when I’m an adult. Now, I’m moving to Germany myself and I’m waiting for the VISA that takes so long ( embassy problems ).

I hate this… I hate what’s happening. I will be starting to work remotely with the German company until the VISA process is completed and I keep getting this image that when I will be moving, I will be leaving my messy parents alone, especially my mother who is weak mentally. I don’t want to stay either.

Talking with my sister or brother is pointless. I’m 7 and 9 years younger than them and they always look down on me. I remember that when I moved and started living by myself when I went to college, these were probably the most peaceful years.

I know that the title might sound dramatic and there are worse families out there, but I just wanted to share this.