I’ve gotten a consistent amount of feedback over the past week and I think I need some assistance with this from other successfully dating or married men.
I’m getting into my 30s, the thought has been on my mind to pursue a more meaningful relationship. Long term, substantial, no flings. Other redditors have commented saying that I should just open a few dating app accounts and see what happens. I’ve done that before with varying success, granted that I’m having the most luck with Eharmony. That one seems to work fairly well in matching people.
But it isn’t beyond me to self reflect on ways I could be deterring people. So, I guess my question would be related to the idea of how to set up an optimal dating account?
I’m not someone who will blame the algorithms or the app. If I’m not getting dates then chances are it’s me. So, how do you set up your dating profile? (If and when you did prior to meeting your partner) maybe I’m missing something.
Typically I post about 5-6 photos of me and some of the hobbies I like, and I make sure to include the facts like working full time, taking care of myself, and having my own place to live with semi plans for the future. Hell, I’ve even paid attention to personality content to become more self aware for the sake of any potential partners.
Any constructive help will be appreciated. Thank you.
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I met my wife on eHarmony, but this was maybe 13 or 14 years ago, before the market was so saturated.
I think you’ve got a good plan, but I think you need to work on meeting people through LOTS of different avenues. Absolutely set up some online profiles, but don’t put all your hope in them! From what I’ve heard it can be very discouraging.
You should also be trying to meet people, not even to date them, at mixed sports or other hobbies. Painting classes, or language classes, etc. What you want to do is open your friendship group as wide as you can, so that you get to interact with the largest number of people possible. Friends introducing you to other single friends, for example.
Best of luck!