Hi! Rainy day forecasted for this weekend, so hiking etc is out. It’s her birthday on Monday, so for Sunday I was thinking of proposing her coming over and I would attempt to make her favorite food beforehand and pick up her favorite drink, a cake, etc, and we’d just watch a movie or something. Thought it would be a nice way to be thoughtful.
But I’m worried that will come across as implying sex. For context, this is going to be our fifth date, and we still haven’t kissed (my fault, nerve-wracking, and I’ll fix it this time). We’re both looking for a LTR and I don’t think she think’s I’m that kind of guy. Regardless, I think the implication may be there.
What do you all think? **And do you all have any other perhaps less controversial ideas — some similar thoughtful (but indoor) way I can do to recognize her birthday?**
TL;DR — would inviting over for 5th date imply sex? Any other alternative ideas for a rainy day?
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No I don’t think there’s anything wrong with this.
I would preface your invitation by explaining that it’s a rainy day and that’s why you have picked it. You could even say something like, ‘to be clear, I just want us to hang out by doing X, X, X, nothing else’.
First of all, stop overthinking things. You probably already know but here’s a reminder because I know even I need it sometimes – just let things happen, you enjoy her company, she obviously enjoys yours. Don’t go into your 5th date with this level of expectation: you want to cook for her and watch a movie, do that, that’s a solid plan. After that, just have fun. Relationships are supposed to be fun, not stressful, at least not yet anyway.
Nothing wrong with it!