i (23F) live in a major city. i matched with someone on hinge who’s from another country on saturday and will only be in the city for a week.
i want to have them over, but i’m also a bit worried about the safety of it as i’m new to casual hookups. should i have them meet me for a drink first? i feel like my apartment would be a better call then meeting them at their hotel, right?
what do you all look for in a casual hookup before meeting up?
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I think it’s probably safer to first meet in a public spot. You two can ditch the bar and head back to your place for some fun time at any point if you vibe with him in person.
As a guy, I’d say definitely meet in public first for safety purposes. And, if a guy is resistant to that, it could be a huge red flag that he’s with a) married/in a relationship and doesn’t want to be seen in public with you or b) completely out of touch with how women should be treated and respected. Whether you still want to hook up is, of course, still up to you, but definitely make sure you stay safe.
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Definitely meet in a public place. I would not invite them back to your house or give them information on where you live. I would have a trusted friend know where I am and have my phone locator turned on and connected with them. I would say the hotel is the safer option over your home, there are cameras at the entrances and you can leave at anytime if you feel uncomfortable, much harder to ask a random to leave your home.
You should definitely meet in a public place first. The hotel bar could be a good option (if it has one), as it makes it easy to find an excuse to go to his room. Make sure he wears protection too, no telling what he could have